Family roles evolve and are not consciously chosen. You can change your outdated roles on purpose to have a family and relationship experience that works better for you.

A few years ago, I suggested we combine parties together which they agreed to, but since I had “more people than them,” my mother forbade me from asking other to contribute.

My brother and his wife do not contribute financially nor with prep, serving, cooking or clean-up, so essentially, I am giving their daughter a party as well.